Saturday Spotlight

Kris, at Junk Chic Cottage, has been kind enough to feature me in her Saturday Spotlight!  I've posted what I sent here, but you can also check it out on her blog, Junk Chic Cottage.  Kris is so sweet, has a beautiful home and writes a lovely blog. You really should check it out!  I know you will enjoy it!

So, here's what I sent to Kris....

Facts about me:

My first blog post was January 31, 2015.  I was terrified.  I’m still terrified!

I’m Alabama born and raised.  I do not like the colors orange and blue. ;-)

I moved from Birmingham to Dallas in 2011 and from Dallas to Nashville in November 2014.  The hubby is giving me a tour of the country – in no particular order.

I’m currently in menopause. It started when I was 2 years old.  I don’t remember reading about the curse of menopause in the Bible.  I think it was skipped.....on purpose.

I’ve been married to the current hubster for 7 years.  We met at a “haunted barn”.  We wanted to get married on Halloween and have everyone attend in costume.  The bestie nixed that so we got married on the 4th of July. We like that the entire United States celebrates our wedding anniversary! Here is a photo from our wedding…sheesh, look how skinny.  Menopause took care of that! 

Menopause started 6 months after we were married…send my hubby gifts and lots of “poor guy” messages.  He doesn’t know the “real me”  only the menopausal maniac I’ve become.  He is 10 years younger and doesn’t deserve a menopausal wife, but here we are.  Sorry about our little Samsung camera automatically airbrushes your face.  I don't understand why it thinks everyone's face has wrinkles!

I’m a pinner not a tweeter.  I can’t say anything in 140 characters or less. 

I’m a girly girl.  I don’t like to get dirty.  Maybe that’s why my craft projects fail.

I wear gloves for everything…washing dishes, dusting, vacuuming, painting, potting plants, watering plants, mopping the floors, washing my car, emptying the trash…you get the picture.  The gloves are pink.

I will not play sports.  The fear of a breaking a nail is just too great.  I do ride a bike.

I’ve never had a broken bone, but when I was little my dad ran over me with the car.  My aunt opened the car door while we were going somewhere and I fell out.  To this day I remember being embarrassed in the ER because the doctors and nurses saw my panties when they cut my pants off.  I was about 5 or 6…all that drama over a little (a lot of) blood.

Some strange men joined my bachelorette party.

One kept trying to kiss me.

I finally let him kiss my cheek after these men gave me money… a wedding gift. The new hubby-to-be was not happy when he saw all the photos.

I chewed gum during my entire wedding.  I was nervous.

I like getting people to pose for unusual family photos - like this...

And this.  The young girl in this photo, who looks like she’s about 17 was 12…yep, 12.

I didn’t look like that at 12…this is what I looked like…UGH…that nose…that hair…those freckles, those eyebrows.  I saw someone from school many years after graduation.  She asked if I had a nose job...nope.  She said "you must have grown into it then."  Yep!  I still laugh.

I have 2 boys and 2 step-children – 1 boy, 1 girl.

And one granddaughter.

The first time around I was married for 25 years. The first hubby died during the divorce ordeal…at my feet.  I was confused as to whether I was a widow or divorcee.  I still don’t know, but that was 11 years ago.  I’ve moved on.

I’ve been to New York City and Las Vegas twice. 

I’ve been out of the country once.

I’m a Marilyn Monroe, not Marilyn Manson, fan (go ahead, Google him). I miss Cary Grant, Audrey Hepburn, William Powell, Henry Fonda, Frank Sinatra, Mel Torme, Dean Martin (this list could take a few days).

My youngest son has Loeys-Dietz Syndrome (similar to Marfan’s). We've spent many years in hospitals and doctor's offices.  He almost died once.

I love my lifelong friends (we all went to church and school together).  I HATE having my picture taken but do not miss an opportunity to pose when it’s a good hair day – those silly girls totally messed up this picture, but I rocked it (good hair day and not too big in the mouth area).

I’ve been a photographer for about 20+ years.

The hubby and I love plays.  Our first play to see together was The Full Monty.  I. HAD. NO. IDEA what it was about (honestly) because I had never seen the movie. We sat at a table next to the stage - I didn’t see the ending…my eyes were covered.  The hubby did and described it in great detail...all the way home!

Now you know more than you EVER wanted to know about me!


  1. Here visiting from Kris's Spotlight on you, Benita. Left a comment there and triple Amen it here. I love your fun writing! Now to see other posts…


    1. Hi Dewena…thank you so much!! You are in Nashville??? If so, how awesome! I’ve been trying to find some other bloggers in the area and was beginning to believe they were all back in Texas….LOL Again, thank you so much! I’m looking forward to catching up on your blog as well! Don’t you just love meeting new people??!! :-) Have a wonderful weekend!

  2. Got quite a kick out of your bachelorette guys and your writing. Love your blog and your attitude.

    1. Sharon, thank you so much! They were definitely something else, that's for sure! :-) You are so sweet and I appreciate your encouraging words! Have a wonderful weekend!

  3. And I like you even more, if that's possible ;)

    Those family photos you took look very Wes Anderson. Very cool!

    I think you were a cute little girl. My picture is so bad at 12 that my mom has the only one left LOL

    I hope you're over your cold.


    1. Thank you so much Rue. I’m different, for sure…LOL. I really like shooting unusual photos. I have a cute one of my oldest son, his wife and my granddaughter, but I’m not allowed to post it anywhere…LOL

      This photo was one of the few school photos that I had taken that I was not sporting a fever blister….I have a permanent scar on my lip. I’ve tried to burn all the school photos, but mother will not turn loose!! :-)

      Feeling much, much better!! Have a great evening!! Hugs!!!

  4. Visiting from JunkChicCottage... I really enjoyed your feature. I followed by email. So nice to meet you!

    1. Sherry, thank you so much and nice to meet you also! I will be perusing your blog and look forward to reading and catching up! I enjoy meeting new people!! Have a great evening! Hugs!!

  5. Thank you Benita for doing Spotlight. This was a fun feature this week. Hope you get to meet some new bloggers. Have a great rest of the week end.

    1. Kris, I cannot thank you enough for the spotlight! I've already met some new people and look forward to reading their blogs! Have a wonderful weekend!

  6. Benita, this is great. I love how you describe your becoming a widow/divorcee. If there's a post explaining that one, please direct me, lol. Forget the menopause prefix - you're a very attractive lady whose husband and kids, no doubt, love being around. Thanks for sharing the spotlight.

    1. Rita, thank you so much! Unfortunately, I don’t have a post on that event, but the current hubby said maybe I should write one…LOL. Thank you, you are so sweet. I enjoy reading your blog and look forward to enjoying it more! :-) Have a great day!

  7. Hahaha. LUV it.
    Ugh!!! Menopause, can we bury it?! Glad to meet you Benita. Looking forward to flowing your blog.
    Cheers, Gee
    PS... Don't hate, I luv both Marilyns :)

    1. LOL...really, both Marilyns??!!! Awesome!! I’ve never met a Marilyn Manson fan. :-) Thank you so much! Yes, we can kill menopause any time!! Your art is gorgeous!!! You are so talented! I cannot wait to see more of your work...will be checking it out on your blog and Google! Have a wonderful day!!

  8. Hi Benita! This is such a fun post to get to know you better. You're writing is just as amazing as your photography! You were very pretty at 12, with that straight smile of yours, *I had braces* =) Ugh, menopause! This is the one thing, that my mother kept silent about, and I am noticing that more and more women now are speaking out! Yea, I think my thermostat is broke! Hope you are enjoying your weekend!
    hugs, Christine

    1. Christine, you are so sweet and thank you so much! But I’m going to tell you, that photo is disgusting and I would love to burn it and all of the rest of my school photos. I have a double crown and a cowlick right in the middle of my bangs….hair styling is tough around my house…LOL. I would have preferred to have braces than maybe I could have changed that “big-mouth” smile I had. I don’t know why I can’t seem to keep it under control….LOL. And yes, menopause is a curse. I am totally perplexed as to why pain in childbirth was considered a curse. That goes away. Menopause hangs around forever and ever! We sprayed WD40 on our thermostat…all I have to do is glare at it and it moves to colder temps in fear! ;-) Have a wonderful weekend!! Hugs!!

  9. I'm still trying to get over the fact your dad ran over you, I'm still wondering if I read that right.

    1. LOL...yes, he did. It was an accident. We were going to visit my grandmother at her bakery and were in the parking lot going over a "speed bump". My aunt opened the door to throw out a cigarette, I was leaning on the door and fell out. It all happened so quickly. He ran over my ankle. I skill have the scar. They were all frantic over it and I was humiliated. It's funny, I cannot remember the pain, but I remember all the blood and being in the ER having my clothing cut off.


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